1-Minute Read: Becoming Emotionally Self-Sufficient Will Increase Your Happiness
Many women are experiencing relationship problems because others (partner, friend, child) are not meeting their “unmet” needs – are you one of them?
We are all needy in some areas of our lives. It’s okay and it’s normal.
However, some of us can get really out of balance and be “too needy” or “too independent”. I have been both. Since I was very young it was a goal of mine to become emotionally self-sufficient. I wanted to understand my emotions, my moods and my relationships. I wanted to be able to take care of myself emotionally. I never assumed this was someone else’s job.
Just as it is your job to take care of your physical well-being, it is also your job to take care of your emotional well-being. Culturally, this is not the message that many of us women received. Of course, we know that it is our job to take care of others (sometimes to our detriment) but what we were not told was that we must take care of ourselves!!
Becoming emotionally self-sufficient will make your relationships better. It will also increase your happiness.
Being emotionally self-sufficient means you know when to lean on others, when to ask for help, and when to go within for answers and guidance. It is a delicate balance. What a wonderful gift to give yourself and your children who (as always) are watching you closely.
Go ahead, look inside. Some of what you will see is scary, some is ugly, but most of it is REALLY GOOD.
In my blessed profession I have the privilege of assisting others on their journey. Let me assist you, too.
Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.
