Many of us get stuck in an arguing pattern in our relationships and we can’t seem to get out of it.

 

Here is my advice:  Interrupt the pattern.  

• It is normal and understandable that we all have emotional reactions when something upsets us so I’m not saying we have to stop having our emotional reactions.

• What I am saying is that we can train ourselves to push the pause button before responding.

• Yes, that’s right — we all have the ability to choose how we wish to respond in an argument or heated discussion.

• By pushing the pause button we will give ourselves some time to think about what we want to say and how we would like to deliver the message.

• This simple change can make a huge difference in our life and relationships.

Think about it: What’s the difference between reacting and responding?

 

 

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Licensed counselor and founder of Girls Stand Strong Michelle Kelley, LCSW, helps girls and women of all ages develop and improve their self-image, self-esteem, relationship and communication skills, emotional understanding, coping skills, the ability to handle difficult situations and people, and resiliency to create a brighter, better and more successful tomorrow. For more information about Michelle’s coaching and counseling services, call (703) 505-2413 or email michelle@girlsstandstrong.com.

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